Soapbox: LoL and HoN communities

Gamasutra ran an interesting article about these two communities: Heroes of Newerth Vs. League of Legends: The Communities
 
Its a not review for these games but rather of their respective communities.The community is the heart and soul of a multiplayer game so I'd recommend giving it atleast a glance if you're even remotely interested in picking up either of these titles.Inspite of the slightly passive aggressive tone towards the MOBA genre as a whole, I think its fairly positive press for League of Legends and the article was interestingly published on the same day the game goes live. Hmmm. Anyway, I agree with most of the points he made about the mellower, more fun-loving community that is LoL.
 
I must admit it makes the entire Heroes of Newerth community look like nothing but jerks. While that is certainly not the case, the stereotype does exist for a reason. Personally, I just find it hard to get into a multiplayer game where a significant portion of community is selfish and can't see the value in relaxing and having fun with others (if you think winning every match is the only way of having fun then YOU are the problem). 
 
I'm very new to MOBAs so I had some really harsh matches in both games at first. However, the way the community responded to me fumbling around during these initial matches made all the difference in my experience.In LoL, my teammates and sometimes even my enemies helped me pick items and character/laning strategies etc. and pointed out what I was doing wrong. Some even pointed me to helpful tutorials in the forums and it improved my enjoyment of the game. Whereas in HoN, I just got profanities and insults hurled at me.This eventually lead to me just giving up on the whole thing. It was doubly disappointing because I keep hearing that HoN has more gameplay depth but I just don't see the value of it all if the community continues to be so abrasive. 
 
Maybe someday I'll get good enough to graduate from my noob standard but I've to ask myself...why ? Why bother if you're a perfectly good alternative where you don't have to deal with as much jackassery ?