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I apologize for the rush of blog activity as of late, hope you guys do not mind. I'm venting out my frustrations.
This year sucks so far from my own vantage point. I was hoping for some breaks at work that would translate into getting more enjoyment from my hobbies. Instead, my job has been more chaotic and stressful. It has gone so bad that I am forcing myself to go to work on the weekends, which I have never done before in years past. I have also shifted my hours from 8-6 to 7-5, so I am waking up earlier as a consequence. Add to that my stubborn insistence of playing games late into the night and lack of sufficient sleep during the week has only added to my misery. I still enjoy playing video games, reading books and manga, and listening to hours of music, but it has not come with the same shot of exuberance that I used to have.
Lately, I have fallen into episodes depression/frustration. I bookmarked a web-comic site called "Depression Comix", a comic where the author draws a four-panel strip on how a depressed person would act in many situations. Though I have not gone as far to inflict self-harm on myself, I am replicating some of those actions with what happens in many strips. I have a terrible tendency of always beating myself up. I never really look at the good side of myself and always highlighted more of my bad actions. The strip that I have posted on the right is a perfect example. Not everything I do at work is done right the first time around, and I feel terrible about it. I go back, make the edits and resubmit. My co-workers/superiors are happy with it, though there's still a bit more work to be done. However, I view it as a negative because I could not do it right two times, and it has taken me a lot longer to get this task done, making me feel terrible.
Here are a few other strips that really resonated with me.
- Always thinking that I am going to have another terrible day.
- Digging though an endless pile of self-defeating thoughts.
- Seeing how other folks are doing so well, while I'm struggling.
My lowest point this year is when I completely broke down and cried in from of one of my superiors (a project manager) in his office. He was forced to close the door as it took me over thirty minutes before I was able to calm down. I know I should not be so upset over work, but I had it with a particular issue that I broke. I threw some subtle hints that I was getting frustrated with the workload to the higher superior. I was able to hire a temporary employee to delegate some of our (my PAC co-worker and I) administrative tasks. She has helped out a ton and keeping me on my toes on giving her as much work to keep her busy during her time in the office. I noted my frustrations on the memorandum letter I had to write as part of my self-evaluation toward my employee review. The three superiors who reviewed me recognized how hard I am working and vow to find ways to help ease my workload and rewarded me with salary raise this year on my efforts this past year. Even with the assistance and the salary raise, the work remains hectic and frustrating to deal with.
I am doing my best in looking for a new job, but I get so exhausted from work that it is the last thing I think about coming home. I have done a little bit of job searching here and there, but end up getting no good results. I asked a good friend if he can assist me in looking up potential jobs, as he has a bit more open time to look up jobs than I do. Unfortunately, Philadelphia does not seem like it has a lot of openings overall. The city's economy is not well. Considering that they've constantly cut education funding (they laid off over 3,800 school district employees two months ago!), I'm not sure how strong the job prospects are in Philadelphia in both public and private.
Work is the major source of my anger and frustration, but it is not the only source. I also get frustrated on what's going on with the world at large. I do not follow the news as much as I used to, which is good because whenever I do hear something, it usually is not good. It can stem from something serious and not reported as much (Bradley Manning) to something completely stupid (Royal Baby?). It also saddening and disturbing that I feel sort of numb to all the crime being reported constantly. I am also a huge sports fan, but I do feel silly that I sometimes fall into the sport media shenanigans over particular sports news. And... (I'll refrain from going onward.)
I feel for those who are struggling right now. I can not imagine a position where I am not working and earning an income. It stinks that there is not a lot of job openings available. The fierce competition over those few job openings does not help either. A lot of people who are either unemployed or under-employed would like to get themselves a full-time position right now. I can empathize with those who are going through YEARS in hopes of landing a job.
Lest we forgot about all of those who are living under more terrible circumstances around the world.
What's frustrating to me is that I lash out on myself on why I feel sad so often. I can see that I have a supportive family, currently occupied and earning a decent income, and have access to many "luxuries" that millions of others can not get close to. I just keep kicking myself that I should not feel sad, which then compounds the problem. (The strip on the left pretty much replicates how I feel on some days.)
I realize that I am doing so much for others that I have not taken care of myself. I worked countless hours for my job, support my parents with their business troubles, and do a lot of small things in hopes that other people are happy at that moment. I guess I'm so wired about looking after others, then whenever I have a moment to myself, I always yearn for something to turn the tide for my own happiness.
I am amazed that I have been able to stay afloat against the stress, even if the stress that I experience is insignificant compared to what others are dealing with. It's always takes a lot of energy just to say to myself that I am doing the best that I can under my own circumstances. I am strong in a way. But I do not possess a steel will, and the challenges to maintain an open mind continue to be draining.
At last, there's that source of frustration that arises from the same activities I participate to distract myself from those same frustrations in the first place. It's never fun to get into an activity you love, only to find that it's adding more fuel to the (frustrating) fire. I have enjoyed a majority of music that I have acquired and listened to this year, the books that I read are pretty good, and the manga that I picked up have been good reads as well. Video games have been a mixed bag. I enjoyed most of the games that I played and completed so far this year, but there were many moments that just made me want to flip shit. My favorite game so far this year that I played and beat, Etrian Odyssey IV, had its fair share of moments where I wanted to chuck my 3DS out the window. Still, the games provide a solid amount of good vibes that mitigates some of the stress I am dealing with, though I wish I could enjoy these games more than a simple smile and saying the game was fun with a short explanation.
There is one certain gaming genre that always conjures up a never-ending mixture of joy and frustration. I am hopeful that I can write a mini blog series on my numerous thoughts on this genre. It's always been in the back on my mind and something that I want to simply get off my head and share. I may get some interesting reactions...
I'll end my venting here. To those who read this blog entry in its entirety, thank you. You are a very kind person who spent some of your time reading my thoughts. I wish you the best in your current endeavors. I will do my best to stay strong and work toward bettering myself, slowly and surely. It will not be easy.
--Some 2013 Random Items--
Favorite Music Albums So Far (In No Order)
- My Bloody Valentine - m b v
- The Joy Formidable - Wolf's Law
- Clutch - Earth Rocker
- Kurt Vile - Wakin' on a Pretty Daze
- David Lang - Death Speaks
- Eluvium - Nightmare Ending
- Daft Punk - Random Access Memories
- Savages - Silence Yourself
- Boards of Canada - Tomorrow's Harvest
- Deafheaven - Sunbather
- Queens of the Stone Age - ...Like Clockwork
- Run the Jewels - Run the Jewels
- Sigur Ros - Kveikur
Favorite Games So Far
- Etrian Odyssey IV
- Fire Emblem: Awakening
- Bit.Trip Runner 2
- Sly Cooper: Thieves in Time
- Battleblock Theater
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